36 thoughts on “Funny & Sad at the same time

  1. Crazy how much your environment can influence what you aim and strive for. I was one of the “smart ones” in the black population of my high school but I was friends with the wrong crowd and settled for less as far as academic pursuits go. We moved and when I switched schools I started hanging around people who took education seriously and pushed themselves – I didn’t even seek this crowd out, it was just by accident. When I realized I was just as smart as them I decided to set my sights higher and strive for more; switched from all basic courses to either AP or dual credit. Made friends with the valedictorian and a teacher who believed in me and tried to get into a college I’d never thought I could get in. Fast forward a few years and I graduated with my masters at 24. Long story short – watch the company you keep.

  2. Sad as shit.

    On a positive note though; it seems that overall, it’s becoming more and more “cool” to be smart and kind. Like the kids killing it in school or who are above and beyond kind towards others nowadays are a lot of times the popular ones.

  3. America as a whole devalues education and doesn’t make the smartest have a hero status like they should.

  4. People tell me I “text like a white person” all the time because I actually write my words out, text articulately, and don’t use shortcuts due to an inability to spell basic words.

    I’ve gotten turned down by women over this. They thought I was tryna be something I’m not.

    Bitch, I’m just working to retain all these damn vocabulary words I spent decades of my life studying for Spelling Bee’s.

    And I still always came in second to my older sister.

    I ain’t even mad no more. She got that.

  5. Growing up there was a transition from smart being unpopular to being popular. Like, around junior year of high school when people realized that there was profit in being smart. That gang shit loses it’s luster after the 4th or 5th funeral. There’s only so many times you can hear a mother cry.

  6. Rednecks do something like this too. They get mad when you fuck their sister, but then they be bragging about it next weekend.

  7. At least we’re all growing out of the “nerdy sucessful kid” stigma black culture has been plagued by most always complain that its racism that keeps us back from our full potential but really its our own culture doing the harm

    I personally growing up in the UK (Scotland) haven’t grown up in a large black community but i would rather get bullied for being a “Nerd” and find a good career instead of living off selling drugs
    (Also i know that black culture isn’t alone on this stigma but its the worst i’ve seen)

  8. I feel like it’s not exclusive to just the black community. It seems like a lot of kids in the mexican community would rather just work instead of being in school, which just restarts the cycle that their parents most likely came here so their child can end (If that makes sense).

  9. I had a friend in school that I carried his books for him home because one day he got them taken and thrown into the boulevard by this guy that sold crystal for “thinking he was better than”. It made me so sad that he was afraid to learn in school because of some. I think about that a lot still. When Nipsey was shot it made me wonder if it was someone with that same kind of mentality, mad that he was doing so much good.

  10. or when you speak properly or profound. you are being “white” america has conditioned us covertly say white is right. but we don’t want that because it’s white 🤔 i dunno that shit is depressing

  11. Same shit happened to me. When I was 13 more than 50% of my old school would rag on me for trying to better myself. Ended up having to switch schools.

  12. Ehhh being from a rough neighborhood it’s not so much devalued as college educated people are very common. I didn’t meet a black male college graduate until I was 17 and in a program designed to expose people to college. This is in a town with a HBCU in its back yard. So mid level drug guy we know a bunch not so many black PHDs.

  13. It’s a combination of a lot of things, parenting, teaching, personality, and mentors throughout your life. Never in my life has my family nor friends I had ever devalued me wanting to learn, being a “nerd”, I was just made fun of sometimes. But me being who I was learning was something I liked and nothing anyone said was gonna make me act less intelligent, relative term used, or not try and get good grades. I never understood the value in making kids feel bad about doing well in or school or wanting to do well in school.

  14. I work at an all African American school and have to deal with this mentality all too often.

  15. I am so lucky to have been at a public school with very heavy emphasis on graduation rates and academic success.

    We were about 50/50 racially. Though I do believe they kept their numbers up by kicking out kids who couldn’t make it.

    The school didn’t carry “special classrooms.” You either made the cut at a regular or higher level or you’d get washed out. It fostered a culture where academic success was sought after.

    There’s fair debate over how that system left forgotten kids to go back to the worse off public schools, but those that remained are all really successful people now.

    I know black doctors, bankers, affluent salespeople, a minister who opened his own ministry, a person who owns a car mechanic shop, and all kinds of shit. A lot of those kids didn’t have much money (most had decent parents). Still, I remember me and my dad driving kids back home after every football practice because the parents didn’t give a shit where they were.

    I only went to a vastly majority white private school before that and it proved, indisputably, that kids of all colors can be absolutely brilliant if they’re invested in.

    But again, that’s the survivorship bias talking. Children were left behind to create an atmosphere of excellence.

  16. I still remember growing up and being clowned for talking “white” cause I sounded educated…

    Shit was and is fucked up…

  17. I like how my school is an odd exception. Nerds are mainly the ones that are considered “cool” and “witty” so naturally, they attract people and are popular. I don’t think being a nerd and being cool are mutually exclusive.

  18. I legit got made fun of for reading books during lunch in 6th class while the people mocking me were legitimately snorting crushed up rice cakes

  19. City teacher here. There’s a huge gender gap that we see. Black and Latina female students are doing just as well as white and Asian students, but black and Latino male students are really, really struggling. It’s extremely difficult to get them to think long-term, or what Nipsey Hussle called “the marathon mentality.”

    If you have a teenaged lil homie in your life, talk to him about what his academic strengths are and what he could do with that in his life in the future. It’s super important.

  20. Going up it was always other Puertoricans, Dominicans or black kids calling me a coconut or an Oreo. The latter being way more insulting as I hate those nasty ass cookies.

    From white people the worst I’ve gotten is the “you’re so eloquent”* backhanded compliment and the shocked Pikachu expression when they find out I’m the product of the public school system.

    *Fuck you James, of course I’m eloquent. I grew up speaking two languages, you monolingual peasant.

  21. Don’t discount the amount of progress that has been made in the last 5-10 years, especially the past 5 with social media becoming a thing. Black people all over the world have been celebrating education and other accomplishments a lot lately.

    Also don’t act like it’s only blacks people. Just head over to a Trump rally, or any republican/Trump sub or community and take a look at the disdain they have for education. Even *reading* anything apart from right wing propaganda is looked down on and insulted.

    It’s not specific to the black community. *Any* insecure person or group will put you down for having the audacity to improve yourself. It’s the only thing they have to use against you. It’s pathetic.

  22. African immigrants have the highest levels of educational attainment of any other demographic in the United States of America.

    [https://www.pewglobal.org/2018/04/24/sub-saharan-african-immigrants-in-the-u-s-are-often-more-educated-than-those-in-top-european-destinations/](https://www.pewglobal.org/2018/04/24/sub-saharan-african-immigrants-in-the-u-s-are-often-more-educated-than-those-in-top-european-destinations/)

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    > Immigrants from sub-Saharan Africa ages 25 and older in the U.S. not only stand out from those in Europe, but they are also more likely than the overall U.S.-born population to have at least some college experience (69% vs. 63%). A similar pattern is present in the UK and Portugal

  23. I think it is more that America educates it’s citizens so poorly now, especially minority communities, that those that it fails put down the ones who did manage to learn.

  24. Yeah, after generations of being kept away from education and opportunies some black people started believing it really wasn’t for them. It’s sad. I’m glad things are changing and we as a community are finally moving forward and past such a crippling generational trauma.

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